I've been busy.

At some point I should probably either give up on this blog or force myself to sit down and write more regularly, but for now I will continue to feel vaguely guilty about not writing more and throw up a post whenever I feel like it. It's a lot harder to become the Etsy-empire-owning, lucrative-mommy-blogging domestic goddess I feel is my destiny when I never blog (and don't have an Etsy store...and have yet to develop a single domestic trait except a nasty habit of baking whenever the weather dips below 50 degrees), but I did check one thing off the list in the nearly two years since my previous post.

We made a little human! She's quite a bit bigger now than she was almost a year ago, but she still has plenty of growing to do and so I will continue to call her my baby for the foreseeable future. It's been a whirlwind of a year in addition to the craziness generally created by a new baby: at first I was planning to be a working mom who totally intended to go right back to work after maternity leave, and then I was a stay at home mom for seven months who seemed to spend more time at play groups and Target than actually sitting in my house, and as of two weeks ago I am a full on working mom who drops the baby off at day care, puts in a day at the office, and then tries to do as much baby bonding (and dinner making, and cleaning, and laundry) as possible in the maybe two hours before baby bedtime. It feels like I've been through three identities in the past year, but they've all had an expiration date and this current one is no exception as my contract ends next spring and I can decide then whether to go after another one. (The contract job has great hours compared to my old gig, but after paying for day care I can basically cover groceries and maybe a couple of trips to Target. Kids aren't cheap, guys.)
So that's what I've been doing! I'll try to check back in before I have baby #2 (who should not be joining us for a couple of years at least. Gotta make sure I don't screw up this one first.) or launch my crafting empire, which on the surface sounds like the sweet life but is probably more like late nights hunched over a sewing machine and becoming besties with the staff at the post office. It may be time to revisit my life goals.

(Last-minute add: I was just hunting for previously used labels for this post, and it felt a lot like choosing hashtags. Has it really been so long since I've blogged that now I think in hashtags instead of labels/tags? #hashtagcraycray)

A new project

A few months ago my good friend and future bridesmaid Elisabeth (who is recently married herself) were talking, and we hit upon the topic of marriage and children and how occasionally our brains and bodies would demand babies RIGHT NOW but other times we would thank our lucky stars that we were still (mostly) well-rested, (mostly) independent women. One of us (it might have been me) mused aloud, “Wouldn’t it be nice if there were a blog that just featured terrible, gut-wrenching stories about how pregnancy and parenthood could be miserable?” Our thinking was that such a blog would function as a good barometer of readiness: If you can read it and still want babies, then it’s time. If, on the other hand, the stories make you clamp your legs tight and look upon your significant other with fear, then perhaps you should hold off on the babies. Well, it didn’t appear that such a blog existed…but now it does.

Introducing So Not Ready, the blog full of stories that will help you be positive it is baby time before you take any steps to procreate. Elisabeth and I (mostly Elisabeth so far) are combing the Internets for stories that make our biological clocks skip a beat, and then we post them for all to read. (Think of it as an almost-mommy blog.) Heck, even after we start building our own families I fully expect that we will be sharing our own stories with future generations of readers who are not quite ready.

Don’t get us wrong; we love babies and children and we totally intend to raise our own families when the time is right. We just want to make absolutely certain that we know what we’re getting into before baby-making time begins, and maybe you do too. If you run across any articles, blog posts, or real-life stories that should be featured on our site, please let us know. Enjoy!